- Stop often to wonder. Not just why or how things are, but that they are.
- Assume underlying good intentions. Don't make up ulterior motives for other people.
- Recognize when it's time to adjust your attitude. Happiness and health are all about attitude. Yours.
- If you're uncomfortable it must be your move; don't maintain a passive or victim stance.
- Don't blame your feelings on someone else's actions. Own your own emotions, your own "stuff."
- Know your priorities and keep them always in mind.
- Practice witnessing your own thoughts, and be aware of their impact on you.
- Notice when you're judging someone else, finding what's wrong with them. Try switching to what's right with them.
- Make an effort to find out what about your behavior bothers other people or tends to exacerbate interpersonal problems. Open your Johari window!
- It takes about 6 weeks of conscious work to make or break a habit.
- Get in the habit of eating healthy foods, and do so in moderation.
- As you age, remember the adage: Use it or loose it. Muscles and joints stiffen and need to be kept mobile and lubricated with stretches, yoga, and/or other exercise.
- Likewise, as you age, your mind can set. Keep it mobile and lubricated by exposing it to new ideas and mental challenges.
- Know when to let go, and when the times come, do it.
- If you feel depressed or conflicted or angry, go for a walk.
- Remember that each of us is no more special than anybody else.
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- The only person who can change someone's behavior is that person.
- Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
- Stop frequently and notice where you are, what you're doing, and the people or things around you. Take a moment to see what's behind these, and how you got to this moment.
- Love often, and give (including hugs) freely.
- Focus on cooperating rather than competing.
- When you're caught up in a conflict, think about what really matters here. Take a few breaths before responding to a confrontation by someone else.
- Regarding money:
People are more important than money.
Money will never make you happy.
If you have wealth, share it.
Money is useful but never important.
You can get by on a lot less than you think.
- And hold in your head what Charles Dickens said in David Copperfield: Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen nineteen and
six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure
twenty pounds ought and six, result misery.
- Make eye contact with, and smile, at strangers.
- Those who are flexible don't get bent out of shape.
- Keep in touch with those who are dear to you.
- Don't say things about absent people that you wouldn't say if they were listening.
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